You’ll be happy! It is pretty depressing pretending to be someone you’re not because you think other people won’t like the real you. You can’t please everybody so, you may as well please yourself by being the real you. Besides, you don’t know what all people supposedly want you to be. So, save yourself the stress and anxiety of the guessing game of what kind of person you should pretend to be and just be yourself. You will feel freer than ever before. It will feel natural to just be who you are. There are no acts or masks involved when you are yourself. Just an honest person who is a little goofy that others admire. There are already a million other roles or personas that people fulfill. There is only one unique you. As Oscar Wilde famously said, “Be yourself; everyone else is taken.” There’s a lot of truth to that statement.
People will enjoy you more when you are yourself and not some person you pretend to be. Others will feel comfortable in your presence. They won’t feel pressured to be someone they are not, you will be a nice breath of fresh air to them. Any person ever interviewing you for a job will be ecstatic to finally meet someone out of their hundred interviewees that stands out. Someone that has a unique personality that potential customers would enjoy. People enjoy authenticity. Just think of it yourself, isn’t there a person you love running into because they are so unique and uplifting to be around? They are the kind of people that can make your day by just being themselves and restore your faith in humanity. When you are yourself, you become a sought after commodity in jobs, social functions, friendships, and countless other areas in life. Originality is a scarce commodity in this world. You will be valued when you live life the right way expressing your true self to the outside world. As one renowned author said,
“The moment that you feel, just possibly, you are walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind, and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself…That is the moment, you might be starting to get it right.”
There might not be any greater explanation of what it means to be yourself than that quote.
Through this journey of becoming your true self, you will gain a lot of courage. It is no easy task to go against the crowd and to stand out. It is easier to blend in with the group and make no noise. It takes guts to show your authentic self to the world. I know firsthand how it feels to be tested on your journey to being yourself. When I joined my fraternity, I was my goofy self and danced like an idiot at our parties and received a ton of flak. I was continually ripped on and the butt end of plenty of jokes. I was tested whether to give in and follow the group mentality.
Thankfully through this great struggle, I found great friends who appreciated me for who I was and supported me to keep being my unique self. Through these trying times of becoming myself, people eventually admired my courage to not take the easy road out and give in. It’s funny because the same people that would make fun of me were the same people that told me before they graduated how much they appreciated me for just being myself. You’ve got to beat the crap out of the diamond before it begins to shine. Find good people to surround you during your journey to being yourself. They will be your lifelong friends that will always be in your corner.
Say and do what comes to your mind and not what you think other people will want from you. Spend your free time doing things you secretly enjoy. Surround yourself with unique people who will encourage you to be yourself.
Expose yourself. Be your weird self for a week and see how it feels to be your natural self.