Find out who you want to be. This can mean being a happier person, a more loving person, a funnier person, or a good leader. You will stop going through the motions of treading water and begin to swim towards the finish line of who you want to become. Your life has a meaning when you stop standing still and start taking steps towards your calling and what you wish to achieve in your life. Every day is full of opportunities to practice being who you want to be and exciting when you are on the journey of finding yourself. I read the book, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill after my freshman year of college and I’ve never been the same. I figured out the person I wanted to become and now every day is exciting and full of purpose each morning I wake up.
When you know who you want to be, making decisions becomes a lot easier. There isn’t a moral dilemma of “should I do this or that?” You inherently know what the right thing to do is so; you do it. When you decide to be a good person, you do the right thing instead of the “cool” thing (unless all you unfortunately want to be is cool and popular) and you sleep easy with your decisions. There is a great sense of purpose and happiness that comes from following your destiny. When you know the kind of a person you want to be, you start growing into the shape of the mold of the person you want to become. You become a more loving, a more authentic, a funnier, a more whatever it is you would like to become.
Take a look at the role models and people you respect most in your life. What is it about them you admire most? Do you act the same way as them? Take the time to honestly reflect if you do the same things you admire most in the people you look up to do. You can get a good gauge if you are acting the same way by evaluating and/or asking how others perceive you. Feedback isn’t always easy, but it will help get you where you want to be in any matter of life a lot quicker than if you did not.
Most importantly, think positive throughout the process. Be optimistic that you can achieve what you desire. The journey of becoming who you want to be doesn’t happen overnight and there will be bumps in the road. Recognize this reality and don’t be too hard on yourself. Your actions reflect your thoughts. So, what you think of yourself and who you think you can become is massively important. Your view of who you are can really define who you are as a person and what actions you make. As Mahatma Gandhi said,
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
Believe that you can achieve your desires.
You don’t have to wait to find yourself. Block out a time an evening this week or this weekend to evaluate where you stand, where you want to be, who you are, and who you want to be.
Ask yourself how can I act in order to follow who I really want to be? Come up with actions you can do daily that will get you there i.e. if you want to be more loving hold the doors for others, smile at others, and take the time to listen to friends and family today.